This Is Why We Can’t Have Nice Things


I personally think we’re living in the best of times as a nerd. We have access to everything we could possibly want. Hundreds of comic titles, a new superhero movie every week, TV shows based on our heroes, websites and news are broadcast to us faster than it ever has and we have social media and podcasts to be able to discuss these things.

We are so fucking lucky and yet, we still have fanboys and haters.

The word fanboy is thrown about a lot, and I think sometimes people use the word when it’s not really an accurate description of the person of the situation.

My definition of a fanboy is someone who is so passionate about something they they lose their ability to be objective and will just blindly follow, fight and defend the honour whatever it is they’re into. You can’t argue with a fan boy, they’re so committed to their thoughts that regardless of whether they’re right or wrong, they won’t budge.

The reason I am writing this post now is because I truly can’t think of a better time. We’ve just had Batman v Superman come out, and of course given the mixed reviews, there’s no better time for the DC and Marvel fanboys to come out start arguing over who has the bigger penis is better than the other.

The Marvel v DC argument is exhausting to me. Yet we all hear it loud and clear every time a DC movie comes out is “Marvel would have done it better/Marvel do their characters better” and vice versa when it’s a Marvel movie “DC’s movies are better/darker/don’t make their movies aimed at children.”

I wish they would shut up.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I am not saying people have to like everything, because that’s not realistic. But why is it that we can’t just like or dislike something in isolation? Why does a DC movie need to be compared to a Marvel movie instantly? Why is there even a need for one company to be better than the other company?!

Yes, negative opinions on film, tv and comics can go far in terms of helping people understand that they need to lift their game and do better, but it’s when people just blindly start shitting on something because it belongs to a company they don’t like, or they’re hating on a movie because of a certain actor or director… that kind of hate is not constructive nor does it help anyone. It’s just you being a hater.

I think sometimes as fans we just need to take a deep breath and chill out a little bit and understand how lucky we have it. Some perspective around these things usually helps, because we put our blinders up and get so caught up in the things going on in our little bubble that we forget that 30 years ago, or hell, even 20 years ago being a nerd was so isolating and you would never have had the access to information and news that you get now.

I spent most of my life isolated in the nerdy interests I have. I had friends that liked some of the things I liked, but when it came to comics, I had to turn online for that. I am grateful for that, as well as the amazing friends I’ve made. We shouldn’t lose sight of things like this.

The fact that we can talk to other fans at the touch of an app these days is incredible. And yet, how often do we abuse that privilege by talking shit to one another instead of trying to lift each other up?

I’ll say it again, I don’t care if you like or dislike something, but let’s try and not make it a pissing contest comparing it to everything else around us and arguing about which company is better than the other. I see people having these fights online in the most disrespectful  manner and it makes me sad that we have this amazing platform to come together as a group of people with a similar love and we just tear each other to shreds.

I don’t know if I am the only one that feels this way, but I’m putting it out there. Let’s be a bit more awesome to each other.

Melissa / holybatgirl

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